Nightclub game is tricky because you have to sense the energy of the groups around you.

There are girls that are high energy and you can’t approach them if you are lower energy then them because they will ignore you and blow you off right away. There are some exceptions where you will succeed but the statistics show that matching their energy is much better then going in with a lower energy then them. Sensing the girls energy is a bit more advance level but here are some pointers that you all can use when trying to pick up a girl or trying to approach a group of girls in a nightclub :

1. The girls that are really high energy are going to be dancing on the dance floor like there is no tomorrow. You will see them feeling happy and dancing around, probably even screaming of joy.
2. The girls that are not that high energy will be dancing somewhere a bit off the dance floor among their group and not as intensive as the ones described above.
3. The girls that are neutral would be drinking their drinks on a high top or casually stand around in their group chatting or waiting for something to happen to bring them up. (In other words they are waiting for someone to approach them)
4. There probably won’t be any girls that are feeling down and are in a really bad mood unless they just broke up with their boyfriend or something bad happened to them. It’s a nightclub and people are going there to have fun so there probably won’t be any girls that are “party breakers”.

Depending on the mood you are in and the level of your energy you should choose one of these types of girls. If you are really happy about something and really feel like dancing then you should go for any one of the types above. If you are neutral then only go for the neutral type of girls. If you are higher energy then the group you are approaching it’s even better because you will be the one to bring them up and they will see you as a really cool guy that knows how to live his life and knows how to party. It’s good to approach when you are higher energy then the girls you are approaching but it’s really bad if you are feeling down and you approach girls that are dancing and having fun. You will get rejected and it’s going to be really brutal. They might not even notice you at all.

Acting cool in Nightclubs

When it comes to nightclubs people go there to dance and have fun. But lately people are just there to sit, walk around the club, have drinks and walk around some more. It’s like social conditioning hit so bad that guys are not allowed to dance anymore if they are not pro at dancing.

That’s very incorrect.

Since guys stopped dancing and having fun lately in nightclubs and they are trying to attract attention by dressing well, buying a lot of drinks, getting drunk and throwing money around you should be the guy that likes to dance. You will get instant attention from the girls around and they would pray for you to approach them. They will make eye contact with you, they will smile at you and they will subconsciously beg you to approach them because they would be dying to meet you. Even if you are not a pro dancer you should dance if you feel like dancing. I am not a pro dancer but i still dance. What i do is have fun, I dance the way I feel even if it appears stupid. Doing what you like and not giving a care what other people think about it is a HUGE alpha male characteristic and it has an enormous influence on the girls.

You should just do what you feel like doing. If you feel like you want to dance, then dance. If you feel like having a drink, then have a drink. It’s all about your feelings and the way you feel. If you don’t feel like dancing and you are still trying to act that feeling out then you would probably look weird because it’s not what you truly want to do at that moment.

Anyway once you figure out what you want to do and you are struggling to find the courage to approach a girl or a whole group stop thinking about anything and just say to yourself that everything will be fine and go for it. Scan the energy of the groups well before approaching because that way you have much more chances of hooking up with a girl that night.

If the approach goes well I don’t suggest you start with getting her phone number. You should try and go for the make out right away and after that ask her to come back home with you. If she is having second thoughts about making out with you or if she rejects you the first time don’t panic. Try again in a few minutes and in the meantime keep having a conversation or keep dancing with her. If she is really not into making out with you that night then get her number and eject from that set so you can find another group or girl for that night.

I know that approaching can be really hard for most guys but once that goes well there is another little problem that might occur if you are a beginner in pickup. That’s the awkward silence between sentences which might happen if you are out of topics to talk about. The trick is not to feel uncomfortable with that awkward silence because in those moments of silence you can present yourself as alpha and dominant or not worthy for her time. (Read more here)

I hope that your nightclub game will become much better after reading and applying the stuff you learned from this post.

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Positive mindset is the strongest weapon that a guy can have when he is going out to pick up girls.

Imagine a guy that is happy, that spreads positive emotions and that has a goofy smile on his face which is a great indicator that he is having the time of his life. Now imagine a guy that is serious or that looks sad for some reason.

I know you would all prefer to hang out with the first guy that i described because of the energy he has to offer.

That’s how the people function. Everyone can sense when something is wrong or when someone is putting out bad vibrations in the group or the club but most people that feel this choose to ignore it and they don’t really have a clue what’s going on. They just think it’s another one of “those” nights where you are feeling down and you can’t do anything about it. Sometimes it really is but other times it’s your surroundings and the people around you. Try to separate for a few minutes from the ones that are obviously looking depressed and try to make the most of the night you have left ahead of you.

There are many theories and suggestions about the way your mindset should be framed when you are out picking up girls and I’m not denying them or saying they are fake or does not work. They work for certain types of people. Everyone has their own way of thinking so people who think and react in a similar way will have a similar mindset when picking up girls. So one type of mindset will work on a certain group of people who are mentally similar.

The mindset that I have when I’m picking up girls is what I call a positive mindset.

This kind of mindset does not put any pressure on you and does not give out negative vibe or a nervous vibe. Instead it helps you calm down before approaching and lets things flow naturally. Since I’m dedicated to spread the natural way of picking up girls and not force any techniques or NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) that will hypnotize the girl or whatever, I want people to feel comfortable with themselves and feel like they don’t need any special skills or techniques to be successful.

The whole point of this positive mindset is that you share positive energy around you, among your friends and your group. When you do this you are automatically the alpha male of the group and you will be entertaining for your whole group. The energy of your group will then rise and spread around the groups around you and everyone would be in a much better mood. Since girls can sense these energy boosts much better then we can, they will immediately spot you as the one that is really high energy and will divert their attention to you which is a great thing because they know you exist now and they are checking you out. You can even become the center of attention which will give you the upper hand and almost any girl will pray for you to approach her because in that moment you have a really high status.

The thoughts I have in my mind while I’m out in a night club picking up girls are:”It’s gonna be great. It’s really cool place. I like this music. I’m going to have fun! People are nice. We are out we are going to rock tonight!!” and so on… Thoughts like this will never let you go into depression or disappointment because these thoughts can only take you high(not like drugged high).

I hope you guys liked this article and that you will start using the positive mindset when you go out to pick up girls.

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I feel ashamed is a sentence that causes a huge problem for many people around the world when it comes to many things not just approaching girls.

The fact is that shame is not really a natural feeling as far as I’m concerned. I believe that the modern society conjured this type of emotion and made people feel something bad inside them when they did something wrong which later on it was called being ashamed or feeling shame.

Let’s go a bit back in time before the first modern society was born and people were still cavemen and didn’t know about any shame or anything similar. The people from back then wore clothes because they were cold not because they were ashamed to show their parts. They were normal and didn’t have any pressure from the whole society because they weren’t so evolved mentally. Modern people would refer to them as shameless. After awhile when the first form of modern society was born people started thinking more and more and after awhile some became smarter and dictated rules to the others and that’s when the first form of shame was born.

We can safely say that you don’t really feel ashamed and that sentence: “I feel ashamed” isn’t really true. It’s in your head and your brain is amplifying it to your body.

This is a good thing because once you realize that shame isn’t something that you can’t control you can take over the control with your conscious mind. The feeling of shame is deep in your subconscious and it’s planted there since very young age, since you were born to be precise.

Why do you think babies and youngsters till the age of 2-3 years old don’t feel ashamed of being naked in front of people or pee in front of people? Because they are just beginning to realize that, that kind of behavior isn’t accepted by the society and that people do not approve of it.

That’s when it all starts. The parents of that baby would teach him proper manners and educate him the right way. Don’t get me wrong I’m not against educating and raising your kid like that but there are certain areas of life where feeling shame is something that holds you back. There are certain fields where not feeling any shame at all will benefit you a lot in life and will make you a much better person, not to mention much happier. T

Take picking up girls for example. Guys are worried that if they approach the girl they like and the girl doesn’t like them back they would feel ashamed and they never approach. That eliminates every chance of them being happy because of shame. Because of shame they just missed their chance with that girl they really liked and would probably miss many more before they realize that they shouldn’t have.

Every time you see a girl you like you should approach her no matter if you are thinking anything like: “Oh I feel ashamed I shouldn’t do this”. Remember that it’s not something you can’t control.

I mean this! It’s easily controlled. You have nothing to worry about even if she rejects you. Your life isn’t threatened so your existence is safe. That should be the only thing that will stop you from approaching. Only if you life is in danger and since it isn’t you don’t have any excuses. The truth is that even if you get rejected and you feel ashamed because your friends made fun of you or whatever, they actually admire you for having the courage to approach despite the fact that you were ashamed or terrified of it. They would all give anything to be able to go against that fear and feeling of shame. If your friends laugh at you for this and it bothers you that much you can just say to them that they would gather the courage to approach a girl like that and that you know they are all jealous of you but if you ask me it’s much better to keep this things to yourself and not respond at all because you really shouldn’t care what other people think of you and whether you are a cool guy or not.

Anyway I hope this blog post made you think about the possibility of approaching a girl despite the sentence: “I feel ashamed” going through your head and that some part of you knows this is true even if you can’t really admit it to yourself right away.

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Day game is more a number close game then it is anything more.

Usually during the day girls are not much ready for an approach by a guy. This shouldn’t discourage you or make you not want to approach. It’s just that during the day girls jut like men have their own things to do and they probably don’t have time to go home with you right away or make out with you right there on the street or the local park. That’s why i say it’s more of a number close game.

Sure sometimes it can happen to find a girl that has a free time so she can grab a cup of coffee with you and have a chat or maybe go back home with you for a “drink” but that happens rarely and takes a lot of practice.

As I said before, girls have their guard down because they don’t expect to be hit on by jerks and pricks. That mostly happens in the clubs. That’s why it’s much easier to approach during the day. You can avoid her defenses completely just by being polite. So the next time you see a girl that you like coming your way or heading in the same direction with you or even one that is far away and seems beautiful to you. Go ahead and make an approach.

The thing you have to keep in mind in day game is that people are nice if you are nice to them.

If you approach a girl in a bad way and with bad manners she is more likely to respond worse then you approached and blow you away right away. But if you are polite she will be polite too. There are some cases where she might be having a bad day or something like that and she might respond bad to your politeness but the bottom line is that you are not doing anything bad and she will realize that after she comes to her senses. You just have to approach politely and chat a little bit with her even if she seems like she doesn’t want to talk to you at first.

She might think that you are weird at first for approaching her but if you don’t feel weird and it’s a normal thing for you too then she will accept you and value you for approaching her. The attraction will start raising afterwards because you had the courage to go over and say something to her and she knows that’s really hard for most guys. Showing determination of this kind presents you as an alpha male and girls are drawn to alpha males which means that she will be drawn to you instantly.

After about 3-10 minutes talking with her you can ask for her number so you can call her in a few days. It’s important to stop the conversation first and say that you have to go but you would love to talk more over a cup of coffee or dinner sometime. This is good because it shows that you have important things to do and that you are not just wandering around looking for girls to pick-up.

If you want to go for something more then just a number then go for it. If you feel that you can get her back home right away then do it. But i don’t suggest trying this if you are just starting out.

Day game is a perfect way to start learning how to pick up girls because girls have their guard down and they won’t reject you because they think you are some regular jerk that hits on them cause he is drunk.

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Positive thinking is always a good thing whether it’s while picking up a girl you like or in another field of life.

The reason this is true is because whenever you think positive you motivate yourself internally and externally. Motivation is a really important factor to take into consideration because without having a motive you won’t do well and the outcome of the whole situation won’t be as you hoped. The positive thinking comes into play here. The more positive thoughts you have the better you will do in your approach. If you think that the girl will blow you off if you approach then the chances of that happening are increased because you are thinking negative.

Positive thinking can also be sensed by the girls when you approach them.

When you have positive thoughts in your mind the whole body language is showing that off. You give out a special kind of vibe that says I’m a happy dude and everyone should hang out with me. If you put out this kind of vibe in the room the girls will notice you immediately and their attention will be focused on you. I’m sure you’ve seen some of the guys in the clubs that are dancing like there is no tomorrow. Those guys are doing what they want and are being happy and the girls always spot them and would love to dance with them and be around them because they can sense the vibe that they put out. That vibe is what draws the attention and makes you the center of attention. When you got the attention of a girl you can smoothly approach her and she won’t be freaked out or paranoid by that approach.

Thinking positive will also make you look much better. If you have positive thoughts in your mind you face will show that too. You will have a smile on your face the whole time. You will have like a spark in your eyes that shows you are happy about something.

Ultimately positive thinking is something that everyone should be doing in every field of their lives. Not only you will have much more success in approaching and picking up girls but positive thinking will also gain you much more respect among your social circle, your friends and colleagues.

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Knowing how to text a girl you like is really good skill to have at your disposal because as the world is moving forward the texting becomes more and more popular in the pick-up and dating world.

Texting girls isn’t at all hard. It’s much easier then calling her and thinking of things to say as the seconds go by. When you text a girl you are given the whole time in the world to think of an appropriate text to send her. Nobody is rushing you and you have time to think. However most guys become very nervous when they want to send a text to a girl they really like because they think too much of what to send to make her like them. The problem here is pretty much obvious and it’s the part where you think so hard to write something and after awhile everything seems so dull and you give up and you don’t write anything. Don’t let this happen because it’s the worst thing that can happen. Not writing anything means that you blew it up with that girl.

Here are a few tips on how to text a girl you like:

1. The first time you text her don’t ask any questions. Text her a statement of some sort like: “I love hanging out at the beach with some cold beer by my side.” or “Enjoying the view from my balcony is really relaxing.” – This text isn’t needy and if she don’t respond back you won’t feel like she rejected you. If you sent her a question you would feel really bad if she didn’t respond and bad thoughts would go through your mind which will put you in a bad mood and might make you back out of trying to get a date with her.

2. Don’t use emoticons too much unless you are making a joke about something and she might not get that it’s a joke through a text.

3. Don’t use “…” at the end of the sentences because it is really needy. When someone sends you a text and he/she puts “…” at the end it means that he/she needs a response to his/her message and that is really unattractive and needy.

4. When you are ready to set up a date don’t ask her when she is free just suggest a day for you to meet up. Make a strong suggestion, something like: “We can’t keep texting, we are meeting this Sunday for a cup of coffee.” or just the second part of that sentence. It will show her that you are confident, dominant and real alpha male that goes after what he wants.

5. Avoid using “lol” because it will really look like you are immature and it’s a real turn off for most girls.

Even tho texting is taking over the world I still prefer to make a call and have a conversation since much more variables of interaction are involved then the plain text message like voice and situational confidence. But since even girls prefer texting it is really useful to know these tips above to appear as much alpha as possible.

I hope you liked this article and that you learned how to text a girl you like the right way.

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The awkward silence which happens when you run out of subjects to talk with the girl don’t have to awkward at all.

It’s just a point of view actually. You don’t have to panic and quickly think of subjects to initiate. Instead let her do that while you look at her eyes with a smile on your face, just enjoying the view. This is a really good technique which builds up sexual tension between both of you and whoever cracks first under that tension, looses.

Being under this tension can be quite a challenge for beginners and people who are not that self centered and confident but we all had to start somewhere and work our way to the experts league so there is nothing to be scared or ashamed of if you are not able to feel comfortable with that awkward silence between subjects. The awkward silence is kind of a test of dominance. If you don’t look nervous and tensed she will find that much more attractive and she will value you much more then before.

Keeping your cool during this awkward pauses is a huge part of the non-verbal game. It’s where the body language comes into play. Like the faces you make while looking at her, the gestures you do with your hands and the vibe that you body is giving out.

The girl can sense if you are tensed or nervous and that might be a deal breaker for her but not necessarily. She might not mind that but subconsciously she will know that the guy who got nervous isn’t alpha male.

During this awkward pause all you should do is look deep in her eyes, have a smile on your face and from time to time bite or lick your lip in a sexy way like you are thinking about kissing her. It would build up the tension even more and she will either ask you what’s on your mind (even tho she would already know that you want to kiss her) or she would break the tension with starting another topic or asking a question.

If any of this happens it’s all good because you have the upper hand after that. You dominated the situation and she values you more now. She will also become much more attracted to you after you did that because you showed a great deal of confidence.

However, it’s quite hard to deal with this tension and the awkward silence so I have a good technique for you to try out since it worked for me in the beginning.

It’s really simple actually. All you have to do when you sense that awkward silence coming is say the first word that comes to your head and then laugh a little bit. Like a small giggle. When you do this she will become very curious what is so funny about the word you just said and there is your time to think about a new subject without the awkward silence. If you can’t think of anything at the moment look around and say something that you see. Like: “Tall bald guy!!” whatever, it doesn’t have to make any sense she would instantly become curious about what you said and why you said that and she will ask questions while you get your time to think about the next subject that you want to talk about.

I hope this article helped you deal with the awkward silence problem and that you learned something useful from it.

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There is one thing you have to remember when you approach a group of girls - you can’t have them all and you have to pick one that you like the most to isolate.

So that being said, there should really be no difference if it’s a girl or it’s a group of girls. If you don’t feel that way don’t despair. Many guys don’t feel like they can approach a group of girls the same way as they approach a single girl. The problem that actually holds you back from approaching the group is in your own head and your own reality. You are probably thinking it is different because they are already deep into their conversation and they would mind if you interrupted them. Another thing that guys think is that when girls are in a group they are much more secure and it’s much harder to penetrate their defenses but in reality it’s not.

All you will need is the right mind set which is the same one you have when approaching a girl – It’s going to be great, she will be nice, I got nothing to lose, I’m not doing anything wrong, I’ll have fun. That’s the mind set that you should have in order to not feel any approaching anxiety and discomfort.

Another thing that can be useful is a wing-man. If you are determined to get one of the girls (and I only assume you are) you might need someone to entertain the other girls while you make your move and work your charm on the girl you like. It’s also possible to get a girl in a group without wing-man but it’s proven to be a little harder because you will have to spread your attention to all the girls in the group which is a bit overwhelming.

After you’ve learned how to approach a group of girls it’s time to make you next move and that is to isolate the girl that you like.

Isolating the girl you like is the most essential thing that you must do when you want to pick up a girl in a group. Getting her away from her friends so you two can have a little privacy and one on one talk is the most important thing you have to do. This probably sounds impossible to you at first but I’m not saying to take her like across the bar. I’m saying to take her like a couple of steps away she will feel like she is alone with you. All you have to do is take her hand and say that you want to talk to her in a more quieter environment and start walking while you are still holding her hand. If it’s already pretty quiet then say that you want to tell her something important. If you can it would be good even if you are direct about your intentions. Tell her that you want to talk to her alone because you like her best. Don’t do this in the first minute of approaching. Do this after you got to know the girls a little bit so that they’ve earned your trust as a human being and not a maniac so they would approve of her friend to go with you.

I hope this post helped you learn how to approach a group of girls and how to isolate your “target” in order to successfully seal the deal with the girl you like.

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Telling a story that happened to you like a real pick up artist can be hard to learn and that’s why I decided to write this article and let you know the basics of how to tell a good story.

Before even starting the story you have to build up some tension and let the people know that you have an interesting story to share with them. Saying stuff like: “You guys won’t believe what happened to me the other day.” or something like that. That will get the attention of most people that are around you at that time and they will be eager to hear the story you have prepared for them.

As soon as you have their attention you can begin the story but to truly deliver the desired effect to the people that are listening to the story you have to amused by the story you are telling. You have to relive the situation with all the feelings and excitements. While you are telling a story you should give out details but don’t stall with them. Be in the middle. Not too many not to little.

Another thing you have to focus on is the pauses between words and sentences. Like if you have something funny to tell them in the next sentence, don’t just spill it out. Wait for like a few seconds before revealing the funny thing. Let them wait for it and build up the tension a little bit. Make them curious. Make them anxious to know… Don’t make a pause of like a minute or so… About 5-10 seconds is enough to make them anxious.

Telling a story is a little bit like acting only to really know how to tell a good story you have to be really good with words and a really good improviser.

You need a huge amount of words so you don’t repeat yourself during the story. You also need to be a good improviser because sometimes when you can’t think of the word you will have to explain what you want to say in other words. And sometimes you will need to twist the story a little bit in order to make it sound a bit more interesting. I’m not saying to lie. I’m saying to improve some small things that you think are not that interesting and can be told better to increase the amusement of the story.

I hope this article helped you learn how to tell a good story and that in the future telling a story will come to you as the good and easy part of the seduction process.

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To get a girl you have to start going out and socialize instead of asking yourself the same question – How do I get a Girl?

By going out you will become much more social with people and you will have much higher chances of meeting a girl and getting a girlfriend. That is the first and most important step that you have to take in order to get a girl. Start hanging out with friends and go to the local bars, coffee shops, night clubs. That way you will become much more socially calibrated and you will learn how to act in most situations.

The second step is to begin approaching girls. If you don’t do this often enough you should start because that is a good way to meet girls and eventually get them. By approaching them you are making connections and you are socializing which means that even if you were very socially awkward you are starting to make progress and you will eventually become better. You will easily deal with the social situations that come your way and you will be able to handle the situations with women much better then before. Practice is the key but having a good guidance plays a great role also.

The next step of the question: How do I get a girl? Is steer the conversation in the direction that you want it to go.

This is also known as leading the girl. It actually means that you have to lead the conversation where you want it to go. Ask her question in which you are really interested in. And talk about subjects that you really enjoy talking about. Don’t sacrifice your own entertainment just to live up to her expectations. Don’t try to assume what she might like and then change your personality to fit hers. Be yourself and believe in yourself. That will get you much further than anything else.

The fourth step would be to make a close. Number, kiss or f*ck close. If you are just a beginner I would go for the number close first until you get familiar with closing the deal. You will need to stop feeling awkward when you are asking for a girls number or when you want to go for the kiss. Most people that are starting out are feeling some pressure when they want to make a move on a girl. This feeling of awkwardness shouldn’t exist in you. It’s only there to scare you off and hold you back. Eliminate these feelings. Learn how to eliminate the approach anxiety and the closing anxiety.

After completing these steps the answer to the question: How do I get a Girl is revealed and all you have to do is repeat these steps over and over again until you are satisfied with the amount of girls you hook up daily, weekly, monthly etc.

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