Today I will write about anxiety or more precisely about the approach anxiety cure.
The approaching anxiety occurs when you want to approach a girl. That’s why its called approaching anxiety. Now this is a very common thing in every mans life because many men have never done such a thing in their life and its scary for them. I know trust me I had this same problem for awhile but I pushed forward and went against that anxiety and came out on top of it. So this is what I’m going to write about today. Approaching anxiety is that feeling you get in your stomack, it’s like a cold feeling, many call it melting ice because that’s just how it feels. Like a melting ice. In fact it is a feeling of insecurity and a little fear of disappointment. How to overcome the approaching anxiety and feel natural and comfortable when you approach a women?
I’m sure that there are many ways to overcome this kind of anxiety and I’ll try to explain the approach anxiety cure that helped me.
1) You can keep pushing and go against that feeling of insecurity and even though you will fail a couple of times you just have to keep trying and go on with the approaching no matter what. No matter how bad it turned out the last approach, just forget about it and go for the other girl you like in the club or wherever you are at the moment. This might be the easiest possible way to do this because the anxiety can be compared to a muscle. The more you approach the more you get comfortable and secure and the anxiety will be gone. You will feel really relaxed when you talk to a girl you like and the approach will go smoothly.
2) This second type of dealing with the anxiety isn’t an easy one and it requires really strong reality and confidence in your own abilities. It’s more of a mind-set which you will have to create in your head that will lead you to losing those anxiety attacks you get before approaching a girl. All you have to do is know, I repeat know (not think) that there is no possible way that the approach will end bad. The fact is that people are nice if you are nice to them. So if you approach in a good way. For example: Hi, my name is …… and I want to meet you. I’m sure that there won’t be any bad response. Of course some of them might say no but it won’t be a brutal no with yelling and screaming at you.
3) There is this very useful place which many people i know used to help them with the anxiety problems. It’s not just about the approaching anxiety but any kind of anxiety that you feel. I’m sure their course can help many of you that can’t quite follow these other 2 options that i suggested. Their website is Panic Free.
I recommend these two types of approach anxiety cure because from experience I know they work.
They worked for me and a bunch of my friends. I tried them both and as a beginner I used the first method. But later on I found that the second method was more practical for me. Now of course I don’t need to push thoughts into my mind to deal with the approaching anxiety because it feels very natural for me to approach the girl I like. There is another kind of anxiety but I’ll talk about that in my next post.
Hey man!
I bought your book yesterday… I finished reading it in one breath and went out the same night feeling inspired and hopeful
I tried few of the techniques that you talked about in the book, opened with Hi, my name is Alex and then just started taking… the first few groups of girls rejected me… but after a the third group the anxiety simply faded away and an Alex 2.0 was born…. This was definitely the best night in my life! I ended up hooking up with 2 different girls and took 6 girls numbers!!! My friends started freaking out, asking me what is wrong with me lol… I think they are a little bit jealous
Thank you for everything
Alex!
No problem man, that was my goal from the start. To help men approach women like they always should, without anxiety and fear of rejection.
Glad to help you out!
Ryan
I like the article, especially that the brain is a muscle and you can improve it and it’s “content”
…….About the AA, what really helped for me was that I found out that comparing it to procrastination made me understand why this was a problem for me when I first found out I had problems approaching women. I read some studies about procrastination and apparently the brain has short term goals and long terms goals.
The short term goals are not really planned. The brain take care of “planning” them all by itself….the short term goals are all the easy pleasure oriented goals like sleeping in, eating fat food, relaxing instead of exercising, keep drinking that beer with your buddy instead of going over to the hot girl that you made eye contact with earlier.
The long term goals are all the ones you plan in your head. The ones you really want and which most of the time are good for you……Like starting to run, going to bed earlier, pick up nice girls, get a girlfriend, stop drinking soo much beers with your mates..
But come monday and your brain is back to short term goal mode…. The brain do not work for you all the time, it wants pleasure NOW, it is a pleasure hunting junkie that do not plan for the future. So you need to trick your mind into finding short term goals in approaching women…….
It could be that high when you can see the first connection etc. That might be what is tricked inside the head of a seasoned PUA artist, because his brain have felt those short term goals enough times to associate the “hard work” of approaching with great short term goals.
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